Misconception of Marriages

One of my friends, let’s call him Friend 1 (Unmarried one) was appalled at the fact that I talk to my legally wedded husband during lunch-break everyday! A passer-by for this incident, another friend (friend 2, the married one), commented saying “they are still in love!”. So the friend-1 retorted asking, “Even after 4 years???”

Nah, it’s not “awwwweee” worthy. Get real people, if you talk to your co-workers or roommates or best friends, etc. every day, it should not shock you that married people talk. All married people are not enemies. I pity you for the fact that you have never seen a good marriage. Also this is a place where I add that talking on the phone with your spouse everyday during lunch break doesn’t qualify a marriage as “good”. Well, am I saying I am not in a good marriage? Definitely not! Confused? Figure it out…

In times like today when everybody is so cynical and hides in the disguise of “realist”, it is so hard to feel the positive and happy energy. There exists a lot of unmarried people who treat married ones like we belong to another planet and take it for granted that all married people are either quarrelling or resort to snide marks behind each other’s back. I just want to make things clear.

• Misconception 1: All married folks are unhappy
• Misconception 2: In-laws are monsters
• Misconception 3: Sex gets boring after marriage
• Misconception 4: Married folks have no conversations
• Misconception 5: Only the first year of marriage is exciting
• Misconception 6: You need to take an expensive, around the world trip to bring sparks back
• Misconception 7: (This is for the other extreme) Love is the foundation of a marriage
• Misconception 8: Life becomes dull and boring after marriage.

Though love might be the reason the two people are brought together in marriage, it takes trust, understanding and patience (tons of it!) to make it work. With marriage comes so many great things – you are never alone on the dance floor, you always have a date on Saturday night, you have someone special to hug and cozy up to on a cold rainy evening, you have someone to cry to about a bad day and not worry if you make a fugly sob, you have someone who takes care of you when you have a bad migraine for the millionth time. Hmm! The list might seem like a 16 year old’s wishes for a marriage. But you know what – if you find the right person they will be true.
Well, I know that the cynics are going to call me the “lucky” one and that it doesn’t happen to everybody, but most of the marriages I know are amazing ones going rock strong! I am not saying that marriages are smooth and are a piece of cake. There might be tons of fights and ego clashes but the good times outshine the band times for sure.

PS: Dedicated to my brother who just got engaged and will be getting married shortly! And to my husband who has given me the reason to speak highly of marriages!